Grudges Against Men. How Unexpressed Emotions Affect Women's Health

According to research by scientists, people feel offended in just 3–5 seconds. But can you get out of that state just as quickly, or do you stay in it for months or even years? The formula of offense is simple: “I don’t want you to be like that.” Offense is our unjustified expectations. What’s normal for one person may not be normal for another. And then, failing to build a dialogue with your partner, we turn to manipulation: we become cold and silent so that, based on our behavior, the person reaches conclusions and changes.

But when we’re offended, we first of all harm ourselves—we spend life energy maintaining negativity toward the offender, instead of enjoying life. And women’s resentments toward men are especially dangerous, because they can prevent a woman from building strong, long-lasting relationships. To avoid accumulating negative emotions in your body and begin living in harmony with yourself and the world, it is necessary to:

* recognize the reasons for your resentments;

* take responsibility for your feelings;

* leave the role of the victim;

* change negative beliefs to positive ones.