Attached

A practical guide to attachment theory for those who want to find the right partner or improve their current relationship.

Science tells us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use scientific data and try to improve relationships?

In this book, Dr. Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel Heller explain why romantic relationships come easily for some people, while others get hopelessly stuck in suffering. Through the lens of attachment theory, the authors look at love in a new way and offer a fresh definition of relationships.

Attachment theory is well studied and popular, but it’s usually discussed in the context of raising children. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller applied this theory to romantic relationships between adults—and got astonishing results. They explain how people behave in relationships with different attachment types, why they can’t behave otherwise, and how to use this knowledge.

There are four types of attachment: secure, avoidant, anxious, and fearful-avoidant. Each has its own characteristics and style of behavior in love relationships. What’s natural for the secure type is almost impossible for the avoidant type, and the phrase “it’s not you, it’s me” takes on a new meaning.

In addition, Levine and Heller challenge modern theories of self-sufficiency. According to their research, people can and should rely on each other, and secure relationships make us strong and independent in the outside world.

The authors of the book not only explain the attachment types, but also provide practical recommendations. You’ll learn how to identify your type and your partner’s type, and you’ll discover how to behave according to the results. You’ll get well-founded and clear answers to the eternal questions of relationships: why he doesn’t call, why all my romances end the same way, how to have fewer fights, when it’s time to end a relationship, and how to communicate constructively instead of throwing accusations at each other.

This book will help you look at love differently and will be useful both for those who are looking—and for those working on existing relationships.