Healthy Boundaries: How to Learn to Stand Up for Your Interests and Stop Giving Yourself Up for Others

People who are satisfied with their lives have one common trait: they know how to create and defend clear, healthy boundaries. This book will help you master that skill.

Many of us were never taught how to properly say what we want—or how to refuse what we don’t like. As a result, we hide our feelings behind passive-aggressive behavior, deny our own truth, and suppress our emotions. The consequences can be depression or outbursts of anger that undermine trust and destroy relationships.

Therapist Terry Cole explains what skills will finally help you stop sacrificing yourself for others (without guilt) and begin controlling every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life.

The strategies, scripts, and methods she offers can be used at any moment—whenever you need them. You’ll learn:

— how to recognize when your boundaries have been violated and what to do next;

— how your unique “Boundary Plan” shapes your behavior in the moment when someone tries to violate your boundaries;

— what ready-made scenarios to use so you’ll know exactly what to say to people trying to intrude into your personal space;

— how to handle boundary violators, including manipulators, narcissists, and other toxic personalities;

— at what point you fall into the spectrum of codependency and how to create healthy, balanced relationships.

This book is for those who are tired of taking on too much, constantly sacrificing their desires and feelings for others. Stop doing what others need—and learn to live and act in your own interests.