"I was a wonderful mother before I had children,"—this is how the parenting gurus Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish begin their book "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk." Alas, under these words can sign an enormous number of parents. Why do our attempts to do "the best" for our child lead to the opposite results? Most parents believe the reason for conflicts is children’s behavior. And all that’s needed is to make the child act differently—to push harder, to shout, to threaten. In practice, the result of such actions turns out to be zero. Professor of Social Psychology at the Moscow Psychological and Social University, Irina Egorycheva, knows that it’s enough to adjust the words we use when communicating with children, and their resistance and sabotage in the dialogue will simply disappear. The author developed a special work booklet for moms who want to achieve children’s obedience without using punishments. New vocabulary for the wise parent and communication without orders and manipulation will be the main results of this guide.