I Matter

A guide for everyone who is used to living for others and putting their needs above their own, but has realized that this is wrong and wants to get out. From childhood, we’re taught self-sacrifice (“don’t upset mom/dad/friend”), which often leads to problems in adulthood. The habit of pleasing isn’t kindness—it’s chronic neglect of our own emotions and needs for the sake of other people. It undermines our career, relationships, and health. To earn approval and a sense of safety, we agree when we want to refuse, lose our boundaries and our own voice. The result is exhaustion, resentment, and the feeling that you’re living someone else’s life. From this book, readers will learn where the urge to please others comes from and how to get yourself back—reach peace and harmony in your internal psychological home. Hayley Magui, a certified coach of the Erickson Institute, doesn’t urge, “Love yourself, ignore everyone.” Instead, she takes the reader through the complex path of building new behavior patterns, understanding how difficult it is to give up familiar models.

For whom is this book:
For those who are used to pleasing and lose touch with themselves.
For those who put other people’s needs above their own and measure their self-worth by “usefulness.”
For those stuck in toxic relationships or in dysfunctional families.
For parents and partners whose loved ones are prone to addiction.
For those going through a breakup or separation.