Decent people often focus so much on love and selflessness that they forget the limits of their own strength and capabilities. An inability to stand up for yourself and your boundaries, weakness in the face of fear and guilt—harms not only those who don’t know how to defend themselves, but also those who cross your boundaries. So refusing to follow other people’s requests or demands isn’t selfishness—it’s genuine care for yourself and your loved one. The authors of this book explain how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, colleagues, and even with ourselves.