The Thorns of Parental Love

Psychotherapist Vera Yakupova examines the main childhood traumas and offers tools to help you understand your parents’ motives, cope with emotional barriers, and become psychologically “grown up.” “I’m already 30, but my parents still try to control my life.” “I can’t even imagine what I’d have to do for Mom to be satisfied.” “Father was never around—what does he now hope for?” Problems in your relationship with your parents can take many forms, but all of them have the same roots: lack of autonomy, love, and presence from parents; absence of healthy personal boundaries; a ban on freely expressing emotions or being spontaneous. Using many real stories and analyzing them from a psychological perspective, the author shows how to: • accept the features of your upbringing; • stop feeling anger, rage, and resentment toward people you’re no longer dependent on; • give yourself on your own everything you didn’t have since childhood. With practice and case studies, you’ll be able to become truly an adult, understand that your well-being depends not on your parents, but on you, and become a parent to yourself.

For whom the book is intended The book is for everyone who wants to get out of old conflicts with parents, find harmony in new relationships, and establish healthy personal boundaries.