The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity
9 hrs. 34 min.
Language
Russian
Author
Esther Perel
Author
Esther Perel
Narrator
Alevtina Pugach
Narrator
Alevtina Pugach
Description
Why do people cheat? What drives them to have second families, secret bank accounts, and to develop complex schemes for living a double life?
Ester Perel, a practicing psychotherapist, has spent ten years working with hundreds of couples who have faced infidelity. Her book is a comprehensive study of desire that arises when you look at the “side.”
By weaving real stories from her patients with sharp psychological and cultural analysis, Ester Perel offers readers a new perspective on marriage in the 21st century—how to strengthen their relationships and make them more honest.
Ester Perel, a practicing psychotherapist, has spent ten years working with hundreds of couples who have faced infidelity. Her book is a comprehensive study of desire that arises when you look at the “side.”
By weaving real stories from her patients with sharp psychological and cultural analysis, Ester Perel offers readers a new perspective on marriage in the 21st century—how to strengthen their relationships and make them more honest.
Contents:
Ester Perel. The right to “the left.” Why people cheat and how to avoid cheating
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Part I. Infidelity
Chapter 1. A new conversation about marriage and infidelity
Chapter 2. Defining infidelity. Should flirting be considered cheating?
Chapter 3. Affairs are not what they used to be
Part II. Consequences
Chapter 4. Why betrayal hurts so much. Death by a thousand cuts
Chapter 5. The little shop of horrors. Is it true that some affairs hurt more than others?
Chapter 6. Jealousy—the spark of Eros
Chapter 7. Self-blame or revenge—a double-edged dagger
Chapter 8. To tell or not to tell? The politics of secrets and revelations
Part III. Reasons
Chapter 9. Even happy people cheat. Searching for meaning in affairs
Chapter 10. Antidote for apathy. The forbidden fruit is sweet
Chapter 11. Is sex “just sex”? The emotional economy of adultery
Chapter 12. The mother of all betrayals? Affairs in the context of other marital transgressions
Chapter 13. The lover’s dilemma. Conversations with others
Part IV. Rethinking
Chapter 14. Monogamy and its shortcomings. Rethinking marriage
Chapter 15. After the storm. The legacy of infidelity
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Part I. Infidelity
Chapter 1. A new conversation about marriage and infidelity
Chapter 2. Defining infidelity. Should flirting be considered cheating?
Chapter 3. Affairs are not what they used to be
Part II. Consequences
Chapter 4. Why betrayal hurts so much. Death by a thousand cuts
Chapter 5. The little shop of horrors. Is it true that some affairs hurt more than others?
Chapter 6. Jealousy—the spark of Eros
Chapter 7. Self-blame or revenge—a double-edged dagger
Chapter 8. To tell or not to tell? The politics of secrets and revelations
Part III. Reasons
Chapter 9. Even happy people cheat. Searching for meaning in affairs
Chapter 10. Antidote for apathy. The forbidden fruit is sweet
Chapter 11. Is sex “just sex”? The emotional economy of adultery
Chapter 12. The mother of all betrayals? Affairs in the context of other marital transgressions
Chapter 13. The lover’s dilemma. Conversations with others
Part IV. Rethinking
Chapter 14. Monogamy and its shortcomings. Rethinking marriage
Chapter 15. After the storm. The legacy of infidelity
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