He doesn’t want to admit that he hurts you. For him, it’s normal to raise his voice, insult you, or use force. He doesn’t value your opinion. He won’t stop until you yourself end this madness. The advice laid out here will help you recognize an abuser and give you tools for self-defense—physical or psychological—against aggressive, controlling men. It will also help you adjust your partner’s negative behavior if he’s willing to change.