The Compassion Trap: How to Stop Pleasing Others and Build Self-Respect

People who show kindness and willingness to help perform actions that earn praise—but aren’t always truly appreciated. This behavior is called self-abnegation, when a person literally “refuses themselves.” It can lead to serious consequences, such as low self-esteem and loss of identity. That’s why it’s important to learn how to protect your personal boundaries and develop healthy selfishness. Perhaps some people will drift away from you. Those who used you for their own interests will stop bothering you. Those who only complained and didn’t listen to you will lose interest. And those who received help from you without giving anything in return will turn away if you stop helping them. But is that really a loss?

5 reasons to get this book:

— Learn how to say “NO” and defend your boundaries.

— The book includes a test to assess your level of kindness.

— Start listening to your desires and take them seriously.

— Practical tips will help you stay friendly without harming yourself.

— Get rid of “false kindness” and show your true self.