Getting Rid of Fear and Anxiety
37 min.
Description
A well-known psychologist and business consultant Igor Vagin explains the nature and mechanism of fear and anxiety, teaching you how to control and overcome these emotions.
Remember: feeling fear doesn’t mean you’re timid. It’s exactly the ability to cope with fear that distinguishes a brave person from a coward!
One of my clients told me a story about how six guys beat up his close friend — the one who stepped in to protect the girls — while he stood nearby, frozen by fear, and simply watched as the hooligans kicked him, forming a circle. He didn’t help, even though he understood that he was acting like a traitor.
When he got home, he cried through the whole night, with a nasty feeling of shame and guilt, cursing himself for betrayal. He admired his friend, who didn’t fear six and fought to the end. Yes, he understood that he probably would have been beaten too, that even together with his friend they would still have been weaker than six. But the feeling of shame literally swept him away. This crushing feeling haunts him his whole life, even though the friend never once mentioned the episode of his cowardice.
Many people have mental traumas that stay with them for life. At the root of these traumas lies their experience of having been a coward. Many regret that they were frightened in difficult situations and couldn’t overcome the barrier of fear; regret that they lacked confidence in themselves and determination.
Remember: feeling fear doesn’t mean you’re timid. It’s exactly the ability to cope with fear that distinguishes a brave person from a coward!
One of my clients told me a story about how six guys beat up his close friend — the one who stepped in to protect the girls — while he stood nearby, frozen by fear, and simply watched as the hooligans kicked him, forming a circle. He didn’t help, even though he understood that he was acting like a traitor.
When he got home, he cried through the whole night, with a nasty feeling of shame and guilt, cursing himself for betrayal. He admired his friend, who didn’t fear six and fought to the end. Yes, he understood that he probably would have been beaten too, that even together with his friend they would still have been weaker than six. But the feeling of shame literally swept him away. This crushing feeling haunts him his whole life, even though the friend never once mentioned the episode of his cowardice.
Many people have mental traumas that stay with them for life. At the root of these traumas lies their experience of having been a coward. Many regret that they were frightened in difficult situations and couldn’t overcome the barrier of fear; regret that they lacked confidence in themselves and determination.
