The Art of Saying No: How to Get Rid of the People-Pleaser Syndrome, Stop Adjusting to Others, and Learn to Choose Yourself

Is it hard for you to say “no,” openly express your point of view, or risk someone’s displeasure?

Are you already at your limit, yet still agree, adjust, and help others—while inside anger and exhaustion are building?

Anna Shishkina—doctor, psychologist, international coach (ICF), member of the National Guild of Hypnosis (USA) and of the All-Russian Professional Psychotherapeutic League—offers a practical and in-depth exploration of the topic of healthy personal boundaries. This book will help you stop living as the “convenient person,” when kindness is taken as a duty to always уступать [give in] and rescue others.

Anna Shishkina has more than 20 years of working with people as a doctor, psychologist, and an internationally certified ICF coach; TV speaker, blogger, member of the National Guild of Hypnosis (USA), and member of the All-Russian Professional Psychotherapeutic League.

Afraid of not meeting expectations, disappointing someone, refusing, or stating your opinion? Used to agreeing and helping even when everything inside is boiling? It feels like your patience has run out and you’re about to snap? This book is a way out of the sticky trap of the constant drive to please everyone.

What you have in front of you is not a set of dry tips about “willpower” and “confidence,” but a clear and living system about boundaries: how to rely on yourself, choose yourself, and build relationships without self-erasure. You will stop being the kind of person whose kindness others automatically assume means you can’t be let down—or that you’re always ready to do more.

You will learn how to strengthen your basic sense of safety, step out of the role of the child who must “earn love,” develop self-worth, and create new, healthier ways of interacting with people.