This Is Not the End Yet

The tension of recent years has affected us not in the best way. We’re all tired, and our relationships with loved ones have changed. What once seemed precious has lost its meaning: that’s not the person, they don’t value me, I deserve better… For many couples, disappointment and exhaustion turn into the question of divorce. Psychologist Alexander Kolmanovsky is convinced that adults can figure out when divorce can be avoided—and when it really is necessary.

“Divorce is a way out not just of a marriage, but of a burdensome marriage. The thing is, we often think the marriage hasn’t worked out because the relationship with the partner is tense due to fatigue and burnout of both spouses. And we think: ‘That’s not my person, I’ll find someone else, and everything will be different.’ But that is a dangerous illusion,” says Alexander Kolmanovsky.

It’s very hard to remain understanding and accepting when the relationship is on the brink—or it’s already gone. But it’s especially important to overcome this alienation if there are children. It’s possible to preserve the partnership of mom and dad in raising a child. How to negotiate time with the children for each parent, how to help the child adapt—these are important questions discussed with an expert.