I Want to Live at My Own Pace: What I Learned While Chasing Other People's Dreams

When society encourages overwork and competition, urges you to look for a soulmate sooner, and even shows how to arrange your apartment for everyone’s envy, it’s all too easy to burn out from the thought that you’re not good enough. In this healing collection of essays, Van Ha shares insights that came to him during all the time he chased other people’s goals, successful “success,” and the approval of those around him. He believes that sometimes you have to step out of the race—and that doesn’t mean you’ve given up. Sometimes you have to let go of dreams that will never come true and not blame yourself. Sometimes you need to lose the meaning of life to take a pause and rethink everything. This book of accepting yourself will give you permission to make mistakes and move through life at your own pace. Because striving to be perfect brings a lot of pain, and recognizing your right to your own speed makes your life special and truly unique.