Love Without Hurt: How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

A long-running bestseller by reputable psychotherapists—first time in Russian! A man believes that everything is fine in a relationship if he can relax beside a woman (or in the next room). She, on the other hand, believes that the relationship means nothing to him because he doesn’t talk with her… Well-known psychotherapists Patricia Love and Steven Stosney reveal the astonishing truth about love in this book: even with the best intentions, talking about relationships doesn’t bring you closer—it ultimately separates you. The reason is that most couple conflicts stem from differences between men and women. A woman’s vulnerability to fear and anxiety about the relationship makes her attack her partner, while a man’s subtle sensitivity to shame makes him withdraw and shut down in response. That’s why so many married couples fall into archetypal roles—the nagging wife/the stubborn husband—and why you can’t improve relationships with words alone. By telling stories about couples who managed to save their marriages, Patricia Love and Steven Stosney explain how to strengthen the bond with your partner and make relationships happier without unnecessary talk.