Fragile People: Why Narcissism Is Not a Vice but a Trait You Can Learn to Live With

Narcissists are usually portrayed as self-loving selfish people—cold, unfeeling, and arrogant. But rarely does anyone think of narcissism as an inner vulnerability and fragility.

Research shows that people with clearly expressed narcissistic pathology are about 4%. But much more common is another form—covert narcissism. Such people don’t demonstrate excessive confidence; on the contrary, they tend to downplay their own achievements, harshly blame themselves for even the smallest mistakes, doubt themselves, and live with a constant background of anxiety. Their self-esteem is unstable because it depends on external approval and others’ reactions.

Psychotherapist and narcissism specialist Yulia Pirumova, in this book, reconsiders familiar ideas about narcissists and shows their inner, fragile world—where many unexpectedly recognize themselves.

Relying on a system of exercises created by the author based on many years of therapeutic practice, you will be able to stop destructive self-criticism, regain support in yourself, strengthen confidence, and build healthier relationships with other people.